The first step towards a successful divorce is writing a letter that is both respectful to the other person and which keeps your own dignity intact. These sample letters will give you some ideas as well as show you how to get started.
Best Divorce Letter to Dear Husband
Dear Husband,
I’m writing this letter because I know you need to hear it. You need to hear that I’m okay. That I’m happier than ever before, because of you. Because of the things we did together and the things we made happen together.
I want to thank you for all the things you did for me, the ways you showed up for me, the ways you supported me, and even the ways that were hard and painful. Because without them, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
And now it’s time for me to show up for myself. It’s time for me to make decisions for myself that are best for my future happiness, not just what makes sense logically or financially or socially or in any other way that isn’t about what makes me happy. And so.
I’m leaving this marriage because it’s not working anymore; not because there’s anything wrong with either one of us individually or as a couple, we both just feel like something has run its course and maybe it’s time for us both to move on and find new adventures or maybe even new partners.
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Dear Husband,
I’m writing this letter to tell you that it’s time for us to split up.
I know that I’m the one who made the first move and asked for a divorce, but I want to make it clear that this is not your fault. You’ve been a wonderful husband and father, and I know how hard this must be for you. Please don’t blame yourself for my decision. It was mine alone, and I did what I thought was best for our family.
You’re going to find love again maybe even more than once and you’ll have beautiful new babies with each of them. And if they’re anything like me, they’ll be strong-willed and beautiful just like their daddy! Please know that no matter what happens in your future relationships, or how many times you fall in love again, we will always be connected by our past. Our history is what makes us who we are today—which means we will always be family. So please don’t think of me as someone who left; instead think of me as someone who decided to come back home again someday when our paths cross in another life (or maybe even in this one.
Dear Husband,
I’m writing to you today because I have come to the realization that we are not meant to be together. Our relationship has been nothing but a roller coaster ride for the last few years and I feel like it is time for me to stop doing this to myself. I think that we are both better off without each other.
I want you to know that I will always love you no matter what happens in our lives or even if we never see each other again. If there is one thing that I would like to ask of you, it would be for us both to be civil towards each other and not cause drama or make things difficult for each other when we go our separate ways. It would mean a lot if we could continue being friends and maybe even visit each other from time to time.
Thank you for everything over these past couple of years and I hope that someday soon we will find our way back into each other’s lives again
Dear husband,
I am writing you this letter to tell you that I am leaving you for good. I’ve been a good woman to you for seven years and I have nothing to show for it. These last two weeks have been hell. Your boss called to tell me that you quit your job today and that was the last straw.
You don’t talk to me anymore, you don’t touch me anymore, and when we do interact it’s to fight. What happened to the man who once said he would love me forever?
No matter what happens in life, I will always love you and wish you the best but right now my happiness is more important than yours.
Dear Husband,
I’m writing you this letter because I want to let you know that I’m giving up on us. I love you and I always will, but at the end of the day, we aren’t happy together. You’re not happy with me and I’m not happy with you. We’ve tried everything we can think of, but we can’t seem to find a way to make things work between us.
And so here is my final request: don’t try to contact me or see me again. You can’t hurt me anymore than you already have. Just let go and move on with your life.
I’ll always be grateful for the time we spent together. The good times are some of my happiest memories but those days are over now, and it’s time for both of us to move forward with our lives.
Dear Husband,
I am writing this letter to you to inform you of my decision to divorce.
You have been a wonderful husband and I have loved every moment of our marriage together. We have been through a lot together and we have grown a lot together.
However, after much thought and consideration, I have decided that it is time for me to move on with my life and start a new chapter without you in it. This may be painful for both of us, but I believe it is the best decision for both of us long-term.
I truly hope that one day we can be friends again because our friendship means so much to me.
Dear husband,
I’m writing this letter to tell you that I’ve decided to file for divorce. I want to make sure you know how much I love and care about you and all of the wonderful things we’ve shared over the years, and how much it means to me that you made my life so much better when we first got together.
But now it’s time for me to move on. I feel like there are no more surprises left for us—we’ve seen each other at our best and worst, and even though I’ll always wish things had turned out differently between us, I think it’s time for me to get out there and see what else is out there.
It’s not easy saying goodbye after so many years together, but the truth is that our relationship has changed over time, and it hasn’t been good enough for me anymore. And even though it might seem like a small thing at first glance, there are just too many other things that have been bothering me lately: the way you never listen when people talk; how often you just sit around doing nothing instead of going out somewhere with friends; how lazy you can be sometimes.
Dear Husband,
I hope this letter finds you well.
You may have noticed that I’ve been missing from your life since November 1st. I know you are probably thinking that I’m just gone for a little while, but in fact, I will be gone forever.
This is my formal divorce notice. As of today, our marriage is officially over. I know this may come as a shock to you, it certainly came as a shock to me when the judge handed me the papers but it’s time for us to move on with our lives and do what makes us happy.
I want you to know that even though we are no longer married, I will always care about you and wish nothing but the best for you in life.
My Dear Husband,
I wanted to write you a letter because I know that when you get the divorce papers in the mail today, it’s going to be hard. I know how much you love me and how hard it will be for you to let go of me. I want to make sure that as we separate our lives, we do so with open hearts and loving intentions.
It’s been a long time since we’ve been happy together. We’ve both changed so much since we first met, but we’ve stayed together because of our kids. They need us both in their lives, and that’s why they don’t see what’s broken between us but they will soon enough. When they do see the cracks in our marriage, they’re going to feel betrayed by us as parents and by themselves because they’re not able to fix things like adults do. And then they’ll blame themselves for being unable to fix them too.
That’s why today is such a hard day for me, it means that I’m going to have to start living without my husband and without my children too! It makes me sad that this is what has come about after all these years together, but there doesn’t seem like any other option left except this one: divorce papers.
Dear husband,
I’m writing to you today because I want to let you know that I’ll be filing for divorce. I can’t do this anymore. We’ve been through so much together and we’ve made it through some really rough stuff, but I don’t think our marriage can be saved.
I’m sorry if this comes as a shock to you, but it’s something that I’ve been thinking about for a while now. It’s time for me to move on and start my life over again in a way that makes me happy and fulfilled, and this isn’t going to happen if we’re still married.
You are an amazing person, and I know you will find someone else who will love you just as much as I did (and maybe even more!). Just know that no matter what happens from here on out, I will always have love in my heart for you—and all of our memories together will stay with me forever.
Dear husband,
I’m writing to tell you that I’m leaving you. I’ve been a good wife to you for seven years and I have nothing against you. You are a good man. But things have not been working out between us for a long time and I think it’s best if we separate. I’ve moved out and am now staying with my mother until we can sort out the details of the divorce.
Please try to understand that this is not your fault, nor is it mine. It’s just one of those things that unfortunately happens in life sometimes.
Dear [husband name],
I’m sorry to write this letter, but I’ve reached the decision that our marriage is no longer working for me.
You’ve been a great husband, and I know that you’ve tried hard to make this work, but the truth is that we just don’t want the same things anymore. It’s not your fault, it’s mine. You’re a great guy and it’s not like anything happened between us… it’s just that we’re different people now than when we got married 10 years ago. We’re older, we have different priorities now, and our lives are on very different paths. It’s time for us to go our separate ways and find someone who wants what we want from life and if that someone isn’t each other, then maybe it will be someone else.
I hope you find happiness someday soon; I know that there are many good times ahead for both of us (and even if there aren’t any good times for either of us at all). For now though, it’s time for me to move on with my life without you in it and so am I writing this letter so that you know where things stand between us before I do move on with my life without you in it.
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