I’m Sorry For Cheating Cheating Isn’t What I Do Letter

If you just cheated on your significant other, or they found out, it’s time to get some help. Cheating isn’t what I do. Below is a letter of apology. I’m sorry for cheating, cheating isn’t what I do.

I’m Sorry For Cheating Cheating Isn’t What I Do Letter

My Dear,

I’m sorry for cheating on you. It’s not what I do and it’s not who I am.

I know that you may feel like this is something that you have seen before. Maybe it was an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend who cheated on you and then made the same excuses that I am making to you now.

You might be thinking that this is just another excuse or maybe even that I don’t know why I did it, an excuse that is so common with cheaters who want to minimize the damage they have caused. But please, hear me out before you make any judgments about my intentions or my character.

I know that this will be hard for both of us, but there are some things that need to be said between us and some things that need to be done as well.

Dear (Girlfriend name),

I know it’s not an excuse, but I hope you’ll accept it anyways:

I’m not a cheater. Cheating isn’t what I do.

I don’t know what happened this time. It just happened, and now I feel like complete trash and want to crawl under a rock and die. This is so not me, it’s not how I was raised, or how I live my life.

But once again, here we are: I cheated on you. Again. And this time it’s worse than ever before because of the way we’ve been feeling about each other lately. You’re angry at me for something else entirely, but the fact that this happened makes you feel even more justified in being mad at me for whatever else you’re mad about (even though it wasn’t my fault). And then there’s this weird pressure between us now, we can’t look each other in the eye without thinking about what happened, so we avoid each other as much as possible outside of work functions because  well  Why would we want to be around each other?

And so here we all are, stuck in this mess together because there’s no way out except through each other right now!

Dear (Boyfriend name),

I’m sorry for cheating, cheating isn’t what I do

I’ve been thinking about the time you found out I was cheating on you, and it’s made me realize how much this experience has affected both of us. I don’t think either of us handled it well, but I especially regret how I treated you when the truth came out.

I know that what I did was wrong, and it’s not something I take lightly. But the fact remains that it wasn’t who I am as a person, nor is it what I do. If you could find it in your heart to forgive me, that would be great. If not, well maybe someday!

Dear (girlfriend name),

I’m sorry for cheating.

Cheating isn’t what I do. I don’t know why I did it. I just did. And now here we are, with all the lies and shame and sorrow and confusion and I am so sorry for that.

I’m sorry that you had to find out about it from someone else, someone who didn’t know how much we meant to each other, how happy we were together, how good we could be together if only we hadn’t done something so stupid as cheat on each other in the first place.

I know this is going to be hard for us both, especially for you but please remember that cheating isn’t what either of us does, and that it doesn’t have to mean the end of our relationship.

Dear Boyfriend,

I’m sorry for cheating, cheating isn’t what I do. I’m sorry for being a liar and deceiving you, but there is a reason why I did it all. You see, I was in love with someone else before we even met. This person was my best friend for years before we became more than friends and we had an amazing relationship. Sadly, that relationship ended and I was left feeling like my heart had been ripped out of my chest and stomped on by a herd of elephants. In the aftermath of that breakup, I fell into the arms of another man who was there for me when no one else was. That man was you!

I guess what I am trying to say is that while I cheated on you with this other man, it wasn’t because he was better than you or because he made me feel good about myself again after my previous relationship ended badly. It just happened because it felt right at the time and I didn’t realize until it was too late how wrong it all was!

My lovely wife,

I’m sorry for cheating. Cheating is not what I do.

I love my wife and I love my family. I will never cheat again.

I cheated because I felt neglected by my wife and ignored by our children. I was lonely and depressed, so I looked elsewhere for attention and affection. She knew how unhappy I was but did nothing to make it better. Instead, she made things worse by telling me that if I wasn’t happy with our marriage then we should get a divorce.

I didn’t want a divorce, so instead of saying something about how unhappy I was, I turned to someone else for comfort and support.

That was a mistake and it won’t happen again!

Dear Boyfriend Name,

I’m sorry I cheated. Cheating isn’t what I do. I never want to cheat on you again.

I know it’s hard for you to believe me, but I promise you, it will never happen again. I love you so much and I never meant to hurt you like this.

When we first started dating, everything was so perfect between us. We were happy and in love and the thought of anyone else just never even crossed my mind! You mean everything to me, and I know that now more than ever after all of this has happened.

I don’t understand how something like this could have happened or how it could have gone on for so long without me even realizing it was happening. But it did happen and there’s no denying that now.

You have every right to be angry at me right now, but please don’t take our relationship for granted because of this mistake. Because we still have something special and amazing together that means too much to both of us for either of us to ever give up on each other because of one mistake!

Dear Girlfriend Name,

You know what I’m sorry for? Cheating. Cheating isn’t what I do.

I was raised in a household where cheating wasn’t acceptable. My mother and father were married for over thirty years, and they were two of the most honest people I knew. They had their ups and downs, but they never lied to each other or to anyone else around them. They were always honest in their feelings and their actions, even if it hurt someone else.

I was taught that cheating was wrong, that it was something that would destroy relationships and families; it was something you didn’t do unless there was no other option available to you at the time. It wasn’t just some arbitrary rule set by society; it was something that made sense in my mind at an early age because of how important honesty is when it comes to relationships of any kind.

I have never cheated on anyone before, nor have I ever been cheated on in my life until now but now is not the time for me to talk about myself because this letter is about you!

I am sorry for cheating on you with your sister.

Dear (Name),

I’m sorry for cheating and the pain that I have caused you. I’m sorry for lying to you and pretending like nothing happened. I’m sorry for cheating on you with him/her and betraying your love.

I know that it’s not an excuse but what I did was not intentional, it just happened and I can’t explain how it happened. But one thing is for sure that my feelings for you are still there, otherwise I would not come here to apologize.

You are the most important person in my life, without you I am nothing and it hurts me whenever I see your tears because of me. It hurts me so much because I know that each drop of those tears represents a piece of happiness that we could have had together if only I hadn’t cheated on you.

Dear Girlfriend Name,

I’m sorry for cheating, cheating isn’t what I do.

If you’re reading this, it’s probably because you found out that I was cheating on you. I know that you’re probably wondering why and how could someone who says they love you so much do something like this? Well, first of all, I do love you, but if I can be honest with myself, I have not been a good partner to you in the past few weeks. I haven’t been as attentive as I should have been and there hasn’t been much communication between us which has caused problems between us.

I understand if you don’t want to talk to me anymore or even see me again because of this, but please hear me out before making any decisions.

You deserve better than what I gave you these past few weeks and I want to make things right between us again.

Darling,

I’m sorry for cheating. Cheating isn’t what I do.

It was a mistake and I won’t do it again. I know that there are no excuses for my actions and that the only way to make this right is to be honest and share the details with you.

I apologize for lying about where I was when I was with her and for making excuses when you asked me questions about where I was going or what I was doing.

I want you to know that you were not just a fling to me; she means something to me and has become an important part of my life.

I’m sorry for hurting you, but I hope that one day you can forgive me, because I still want our relationship to work out , if that’s what we both want?

My darling wife,

I’m sorry for cheating, cheating isn’t what I do. There are a lot of reasons why people cheat and it’s not fair to judge them all the same.

I cheated because I was lonely, because I felt like an outsider in my marriage and because I thought my wife would never change. I cheated because I didn’t feel loved and needed by her anymore.

I was wrong to cheat on my wife but it doesn’t make me a bad person or mean that I am not worthy of being loved by anyone else.

I am sorry for hurting you and causing unnecessary pain but please don’t think of me as a bad person because of one mistake in my life.

My Dear,

I know you are angry, but I also know that you will get over it. You have asked me to leave, and I am going to respect that. All I can do is hope that one day you will be able to find it in your heart to forgive me.

I am sorry for cheating on you. I know you are angry with me and may never forgive me, but cheating is not who I am. It is not what we do together.

I love you and care about you deeply. It has been an amazing journey with you these last six years, and even though it looks like our relationship has ended today, please know that my love for you will never die.

Dear Boyfriend Name,

I am sorry. I cheated on you, and it was a mistake.

I know that you are hurt, and I am sorry for that. But cheating is not who I am.

I don’t know how to explain it, but something just happened that made me do this horrible thing. I had no intention of hurting you or anyone else; I just wanted to feel good about myself for once in my life, even if it meant hurting others along the way. I never thought it would go this far! Please forgive me.

I know that this may be difficult for you to believe at first, but please try to understand, cheating isn’t who I am.

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