If you have someone that is really close to you and the person enjoys lying for no good reason, you can use these sample letters below as inspiration to write your own or copy it to express your displeasure about the frequent lies.
An Open Letter To A Liar
Dear Liar,
I don’t know you, but I want to let you know that I am on to you. You know who you are. You are the person who is constantly lying to everyone around them. Maybe it’s because of your personality, or maybe it’s because you think it helps you get ahead at work or in life. But I have some news for you: Lying is not going to help anyone. And if anything, it will hurt people around you more than help them.
I don’t care if you lie about things like where your money went or what happened on the weekend with your friends, those kinds of lies don’t bother me too much. But when someone lies about their feelings for another person? That’s when things get serious! And when someone lies about their intentions with someone else? That can lead to a lot of pain for both parties involved.
So please stop lying! If there is something going on in your life that needs to be addressed, then address it! If there is something going on with another person that has caused them pain and confusion, then step up and own up to it.
Dear Liar,
I don’t know if you’re aware of this, but I’m not very good at lying. I’m so bad at it, in fact, that when you lie to me, I can always tell right away. And then I get this crazy urge to confront you about it.
You might be thinking: “Why would a person confront someone who is lying? That’s so rude!” But it’s not rude, it’s just human nature and here’s the thing: if someone is lying to me, then they are intentionally trying to deceive me and deprive me of information that would otherwise help me make decisions or get things done. Now if they are willing to do that to lie then what else will they do? In general, how can we trust them?
But here’s the thing: You’re not one of those people! You’re an honest person who cares about others and tells them the truth… even when it hurts (like when your mom asks you if her dress makes her look fat). So why would you ever want to deceive anyone else?
Dear Liar,
I’m writing to you today because I have a problem with your lies. I’m not going to lie about that. You see, I’ve been lied to for most of my life and I’ve had enough.
I’m tired of the lies. I’m tired of the denial, too. You know what? You don’t get to say that it’s not true when it is true and then expect me to believe you when you say it isn’t! It’s like… if someone asked me if I was hungry and then said “no” when I said yes, but then later on asked if I wanted some food and offered me some, well, I’d probably say no (or maybe not), because who wants to eat after their stomach has been insulted?
And that’s why this letter exists: we’re going to call a spade a spade here, okay? And if you don’t want to hear what’s being said because you’re afraid of it being true… well then maybe this letter isn’t for you right now. But guess what? If it is true, if everything in this letter is true then you need to change.
Dear Liar,
I know you’re lying. You’ve been lying to me since we first met, and I’m sick and tired of it. You think you can just keep on lying and I’ll keep on taking it? You think I won’t notice? Well, I have noticed. And now I’m done with you.
You see, when we first met, we were so excited to be together to start this new chapter of our lives together. But then one day you said something that wasn’t true and it was like a light switched on in my head: this person isn’t who they say they are! And then another time it happened again…and again…and again…and again…and then one day it was just too much for me to handle anymore: the lying was piling up so high that I couldn’t even see where I was standing anymore.
Dear liar,
You know who you are. You’re the person who’s always bragging about how well they know the city, when in reality they never learned how to read a map. You’re the person who brags about their job skills when you can see them making mistakes on the job every day. You’re the person who makes up stories about themselves that are so outlandish that it’s clear to everyone else that you’re full of it.
And look, I get it: you probably think this is helping you get ahead in life. It might even be working for now but let me tell you something: it’s not going to last forever! If this is what you have chosen as your path in life, then eventually people will catch on and see through all of your lies. And then what? What happens then?
You know what I would do if I were in your shoes? I’d change my ways right now and start telling the truth to everyone around me, but especially myself. And then when people ask me questions or make comments about things they’ve heard other people say about me, instead of trying to cover up or deny things that weren’t true in the first place, I would just tell them straight up.
Dear Liar,
I know that you’re reading this, because you were the one who sent it to me. And I’m mad at you. I’m angry that you thought it would be okay to lie to me, and even more angry that you thought it would be okay to make me feel stupid for not knowing what was going on.
But here’s the thing: You aren’t the only one who’s lied lately. We’ve all been lying to each other for years now. We lie about how much we work out (or don’t work out). We lie about whether or not we’ve had a good day. We lie about how much money we make or don’t make, what kinds of jobs we have or don’t have, and whether or not we’ve ever been in love before.
It’s time for all of us to stop lying to each other and ourselves and start telling the truth instead. Because if we can’t trust each other with the truth, then what can we trust at all?
Dear [name],
I know you’re reading this. I’ve been watching you for a long time and I can tell when you’re online. I know that you’ve lied to me about who you are, but that doesn’t matter anymore. I’m writing this letter because I want to let you know that it’s okay if you want to be someone else. It’s okay if you don’t feel like the person that other people want you to be because they don’t really know who they are either.
It’s okay if you want to be someone else, but please don’t lie to me anymore. Just don’t lie anymore.
Dear Liar,
I know you’re probably thinking, “What kind of person writes an open letter to a liar?” And that’s a fair question! But it’s not like I’m writing this to tell you how much of a liar you are, or to try and convince you to stop lying. In fact, I’m writing this because I think it’s important for people who lie to realize that there are people out there who care about them enough to tell them when they’re doing something wrong.
See, here’s the thing: I’ve been lied to before. And when it happens—when someone you think is your friend tells you something that isn’t true—it hurts. It hurts so bad that sometimes it can make you question everything else in your life. Did this person really love me? Did they really care about me? How else might they be lying? Did they ever really love me at all?
But then again… maybe they were just trying to protect me from some kind of painful truth. Maybe they didn’t want me getting hurt by what they were saying or doing behind closed doors. It wouldn’t be the first time a friend had lied for my benefit; in fact, it happens all the time.
Dear Liar,
I know you’re reading this. I’m writing it to you because I want you to know how much I love you and how much I believe in you, but also because I’m tired of the lies. You say one thing and do another, and it’s time for us to be honest with each other: it’s not okay.
I’ve been hurt by liars before, but they didn’t bother me as much as they should have. That’s because they were lying about things that didn’t really matter like what kind of car they drive or how many kids they want when we’re 80 years old. But when it comes to the things that really matter like our future together you need to stop lying to me.
I know you think it’s for my own good, but I don’t want your protection. I can make decisions on my own without you shielding me from reality. And if you think that means we can’t be together anymore, then maybe we shouldn’t be together anymore anyway.
I want someone who will tell me the truth no matter what even if it hurts me in the short term so long as it makes us stronger in the long run.
Check: Letter Of Disappointment To A Loved One
Dear Liar,
I don’t know who you are or what your deal is, but I’m writing this letter to let you know that I’ve been lied to by someone. It’s not the first time it’s happened and it probably won’t be the last. But I’m still mad about it.
I understand that sometimes we lie because we’re scared of someone or something maybe they’re bigger than us or meaner than us and we think they’ll hurt us if they find out the truth. Maybe they’d be mad if they knew how much money we had in our bank account, or maybe they’d think less of us if we told them that we were in love with someone else. Or maybe we’re just scared of being made fun of for something really silly like… well… for example… say you have a big nose and you don’t want anyone to know about it.
If this is why you lied to me, then fine, I get it but please don’t do it again because my feelings are just as important as yours are, even if yours are really really big ones (like your nose).
Thanks for listening
Dear [name],
I know you’re lying to me.
I don’t know if it’s because you’re mad at me, or because you think I’m lying to you. Either way, I know that what you’re saying isn’t true. And it hurts me, you’re a good friend, and I don’t want to lose you over this.
I hope that we can talk about this soon.
Hello,
I want to talk about the lies you tell.
I know you don’t mean it and that’s why this is so hard for me.
When I found out about the lies, I was hurt. I felt like you were lying to me. And when you asked me if I could forgive you, I said yes because that’s what friends do: they forgive each other when they make mistakes.
But I haven’t forgotten the lies yet. And even though I know they aren’t malicious, they still hurt me every time I think of them.
So here’s what we’re going to do: from now on, if you lie to me in any way (intentionally or otherwise), let me know right away, If you can’t tell me right away, then just tell me when we have our next conversation. Don’t keep secrets from me not anymore, This way we can be honest with each other and move forward without holding onto old hurts or grudges that shouldn’t matter anymore anyways.
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