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Depressed Unhappy Wife Letter To Husband
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Depressed Unhappy Wife Letter To Husband
Dear husband,
I am really really depressed.
I am writing this letter to you because I don’t know what to do.
I feel so lonely and sad all the time. I don’t know why, but I think it’s because of you and our relationship.
I wanted so badly for things to work out between us, but it hasn’t happened yet.
It’s been six years since we got married and I still feel like an outsider in your life. I feel like the only one who has really changed has been you. You never have time for me anymore, and I don’t know if that will ever change.
We hardly ever talk anymore, except when we’re fighting or yelling at each other (which is often). And sometimes when we do talk, it’s only because you want something from me: sex or money or whatever else floats your boat.
Dear Husband,
I am writing this to you with tears in my eyes and desperation in my heart. I have been a faithful wife to you for the past ten years, and I have tried to be a good mother to our children. I have given you all that I could give, but it just seems like it is never enough for you. I love you so much, but sometimes it feels like we are living separate lives.
You work long hours at work, and when you do come home, all you do is complain about how tired you are. You go straight to bed after dinner without even saying goodnight to me or the kids. On weekends, all we do is sit around watching TV together as a family when we should be doing something fun together as a family instead of just sitting around like zombies!
I know that this letter may seem harsh and mean-spirited towards you but it is not intended that way at all! It is only because I love you so much and want us to be happy together again!
My dear husband,
I know you will be surprised to read this letter. But I have to tell you the truth about how I feel.
I’m not happy. I’m not fulfilled. I’m depressed. And I need help.
I love you, and I know you love me too. But we’ve been married for more than ten years, and nothing has changed between us. We live in the same house, but we don’t even talk to each other anymore. You spend all your time at work and never come home until late at night. We haven’t had sex in months, and even when we do it’s just a routine that we both dread and try to avoid whenever possible (if not completely).
I don’t mean to sound ungrateful; our life is good enough on paper, but that’s all it is: paper! It doesn’t reflect reality at all — or at least my reality as a person who wants more out of life than what she has right now (which is exactly nothing).
Dear husband,
I know you must be wondering why I’m writing this letter. We haven’t spoken to each other in a long time and I don’t expect you to answer me. You know that I’ve been depressed for a while now and unable to sleep properly. You probably don’t think it’s your fault but it is. It’s all your fault because you’re the reason why I’m so unhappy.
I hope that this letter finds you well and happy with your new life without me. You deserve happiness more than anyone else does because you have never let me down ever since we met 10 years ago. Every time I was down, you’d pick me up and comfort me like no one else can do better than you do.
You knew just how much pain I was in when you found out about my illness but instead of helping me through it all, you left me behind and started a new life without me knowing anything about it at all! How could you? How could you do such a thing to someone who has loved you so much throughout these years? It was not fair at all!!!
Dear Husband,
I love you. I’m sorry that I’ve been so unhappy lately. You mean the world to me and I know it’s not your fault. But I want to be happy again, for myself and for you. I don’t want to feel like this anymore.
I know that you are a good person who always tries his best but sometimes life just sucks and there’s nothing anyone can do about it. I’m sorry if I’ve been mean or angry towards you during these times because it’s not your fault at all and it was wrong of me to take out my frustrations on you like that.
I don’t need anything from you except for your love and support during this difficult time in our lives. Sometimes we just need someone else to make us feel better about ourselves even if they’re not directly involved in our problems at all; just having someone around who cares about us just as much as we care about them goes a long way towards helping us feel better when we’re feeling down or depressed or frustrated with life in general.
Please remember that no matter what happens between us or whatever problems arise between us in the future, I will always love you more than anything else in this world and nothing will ever change that.
Dear husband,
I love you.
You’re the greatest man I’ve ever met, and I can’t imagine my life without you. But lately, I’ve been feeling sad and depressed. I know it must be hard for you to see me like this—it’s been hard for me too.
I know you’re trying to help by taking care of the kids, but it’s not enough. The other day when you came home from work and told me how much work there was left to do on the house, I felt like my heart was going to burst open with sadness. Because what good is a house if we aren’t happy?
I know that sounds selfish and maybe it is, but it doesn’t change how I feel: that our family isn’t complete because we aren’t all together as a family anymore. And I’m sorry if that makes you mad or upset, but it’s true! We used to have so much fun together as a family… but now it feels like all we do is work and go to bed early because we’re tired from working so hard all day long!
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Dear [husband’s name],
I hope you’re doing well. I know things have been really hard for us lately, and I’ve been thinking about how to make things better for us. Because I love you so much, and I want to see you happy. But the truth is, I’m not happy either, and that makes me feel like I’m failing you as a wife—and as a person.
When we first met, I thought that was it: You were the one for me! And then we got married and had kids together…and now here we are. It feels like we’re just going through the motions of life together without really connecting on any level anymore. Sometimes it just seems like everything has become so routine that we don’t even notice each other anymore.
I know this letter is going to come as a shock to you—I don’t think either of us has ever talked about this stuff before—but I wanted to let you know how I feel because I care about you so much and want only the best for both of us in this life together. If there’s anything at all that could help improve our relationship and make our lives better, please let me know!
Dear Husband,
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I’ve been feeling really down lately. I try to hide it from you because I don’t want to worry you, but it’s been getting harder and harder to keep up the façade. The truth is that I’m not happy anymore—and I don’t think I have been for a long time.
I’m not sure where things went wrong, to be honest with you. Maybe we just weren’t meant for each other after all. But whatever the reason for my unhappiness, there’s no denying that it’s real and that it matters—to me and to our marriage.
I guess what I’m trying to say here is that something needs to change. And if that means ending our relationship so you can find happiness with someone else, then so be it.
Dear Husband,
I am writing this letter to you because I need to tell you how I feel. I love you so much and I just want to make you happy. You are my best friend and the person who makes me laugh the most. When we first met, I thought that our love was going to last forever. But now, after many years of marriage, I can see that things are changing between us.
The reason why I am writing this letter is because I am very depressed and unhappy with our relationship and how it has changed over time. It seems like we hardly talk anymore and when we do it’s always about work or something else. It feels like we have lost our connection with each other and there isn’t anything left between us anymore except for our daughter who sleeps in her own room at night while we sit on opposite ends of our king size bed watching TV shows.
I know that things haven’t been perfect lately but that doesn’t mean they can’t get better again someday either!
Dear Husband,
It’s been a long time since I’ve felt like myself. I’m so used to the way you make me feel—like everything is okay and I can do anything. But lately, it’s like that feeling has been taken from me. You don’t seem to notice how unhappy I am, and it makes me feel like you don’t care about me as much as you used to.
I know you’re busy with work, but can we please take some time for each other? I miss our walks through the park, they were always such a special part of our relationship. We used to talk about everything going on in our lives and how much we loved each other. Now all we talk about are things like groceries and bills… stuff that doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I want our marriage back!
Dear Husband,
I’m glad you’re home. I know you were hoping that this would be a different letter from the one I wrote last week, but it’s not. You see, the problem is that I am still unhappy and depressed about the way our marriage is going.
The thing is, I love you so much. You are my best friend and I want to spend my life with you. But lately it feels like we’ve drifted apart and we don’t even talk anymore. We used to be able to talk about anything, but now when we sit down together all we do is watch TV or play video games. We never go out anymore either because we can never agree on what time or place might be good to go out at. And then when we do go out and have fun together, the next day I feel like all of those feelings have been lost again in our daily routine of work and chores around the house.
I know that things aren’t always easy between us like they used to be when we first got married years ago because of how busy both of us have been lately with work.
Dear husband,
I want to talk to you about the letter I wrote last night. I want you to know that I am sorry for anything I said in it that hurt you. It was not my intention to hurt you.
I feel very guilty about all the pain that I have caused you and our children, but please understand that this guilt is only making me feel even more depressed and unhappy than before.
I don’t want our marriage to end like this, but I feel like there is nothing left for me here anymore. This world has become too painful for me, and all I can think of is ending it all and leaving behind the pain and suffering so that our kids can be happy again without having to worry about their crazy-depressed mommy anymore.
I hope that one day you will be able to forgive me for the mistakes I have made during our years together as husband and wife.
Dear Husband,
I know how much you love me and how much you want me to be happy. I know that you would do anything for me. But I have been depressed for a long time now and I don’t think you understand why.
I don’t know where to start but it all started when we moved here. I didn’t like the new house, or our neighbors, or being far away from my family and friends. It’s not that I’m ungrateful for what we have, but it’s just not what I wanted.
When we first got married, you worked hard so that we could live in a nice house and afford nice things. You tried so hard to make me happy by buying me expensive clothes and jewelry and trips to Hawaii on our anniversary every year until this year when you lost your job and couldn’t afford anything anymore except food, utilities and rent.
Dear husband,
I have not been happy for a long time.
I am so depressed right now. I just want to cry all day. I feel like I can’t do anything right anymore.
I’m sorry that I am not the wife you deserve but I don’t know what else to do. You say that I need to be more patient but how can I be when things keep going wrong?
You say that you love me but you never show it. You hardly ever spend time with me anymore and when we are together it is always work related conversations or about the kids, or about other people’s problems. You hardly ever ask how my day was or what was going on in my life anymore.
I used to be so happy when we were first married but now everything has changed and it feels like we are just roommates living under the same roof instead of husband and wife who should love each other unconditionally no matter what happens!
To my dear husband,
I am writing to you in the hope that you will understand the situation and get back to me. I’m depressed and obviously unhappy. I know that we have had a rough patch lately, but I want us to move past it together. I know that you are busy with work and your friends, but I want us to be able to talk about everything.
I feel like we have lost that connection between us that we used to have when we first met. I don’t know what happened, but maybe it’s time for both of us to start working on the marriage again instead of just living our lives separately and not really talking about anything important anymore.
Dear husband,
I don’t know how to start this letter. I’m feeling so broken and lost. I feel like I’m drowning in a sea of my own tears. I’ve been trying to swim for the past two years but I just keep sinking further and further down into the dark depths of my sorrows.
A year ago, our marriage was perfect. We were living our dream life together in a beautiful house with a garden full of flowers and a dog that we loved dearly. We had everything we could have ever wanted as far as material things go, but most importantly, we had love and happiness between us.
Now all of it has gone.
We’re not together anymore because you decided that you didn’t want me anymore and decided that it was time for us to go our separate ways. You did this without even giving me an explanation as to why you felt this way and what exactly made you think that ending our marriage would be best for both of us?
Dear husband,
I am writing this letter to you with a heavy heart. I have been married to you for three years now and life has been an uphill ride since we got married. We both had our dreams and aspirations when we got married but somehow with time, things have changed for the worse in our marriage. I have been trying my best to make things work and although I feel like giving up, I cannot because I know that it is not just about me anymore.
You are not happy anymore and neither do I feel happy living with you anymore. You are always angry with me and whenever I try talking to you, all you do is shout at me and tell me that everything is my fault. Your words hurt me so much that sometimes I want to cry myself to sleep at night thinking about how terrible my life has become ever since we got married.
I know that no one can take away all the happiness from your life except yourself but please stop blaming me for everything that goes wrong between us because I don’t want any more fights or arguments between us anymore!
Dear Husband,
I don’t know where to begin. Maybe I should start by saying that I’m sorry. I’m sorry for hurting you, for the fights we have and for not being the wife you need me to be.
I’ve spent so many nights crying myself to sleep thinking about what we could have been if only we had made different choices along the way. I wish we had never gotten married but then again, I love you so much and would do anything for you.
We were so happy back in college, when everything was new and exciting, when our future was bright with possibilities. But now it’s like something has gone wrong between us and I don’t know how to fix it.
I wish we could go back in time and relive those moments where everything felt so right between us but sadly time keeps moving forward no matter how hard we try.
Dear, dear husband,
I am writing you this letter because I am afraid to tell you in person. We have been married for 8 years now but I don’t think we should continue our marriage anymore. I have tried to talk about this with you but you are always busy at work or playing golf with your friends.
I cannot go on living like this anymore. I feel lonely and empty inside. When I look into the mirror, I see an old woman instead of a young girl like before. You have changed me from being a happy person to a sad depressed one.
I know it’s hard for you to understand what is happening in my life right now because you are busy working all day long, but please try to listen carefully to what I am saying.
Dear husband,
I am sorry that I couldn’t keep my promise of being your wife who will always be there for you. But today, I feel like the world has fallen on me, and I can’t bear the pain anymore.
I have been living in this world for 28 years but never knew what it feels like to be so depressed and unhappy. I have been trying hard not to show you my tears, but now I can’t hold them back anymore.
The life we had before was amazing; we were happy together, but now it feels like everything has changed overnight. You are no longer the same man who used to love me and care about me like no other man in this world does. Perhaps there were many reasons behind these changes in our lives, but all I know is that I am unable to live without you by my side anymore!
Dear husband,
I don’t know what to do. I feel so alone, so unhappy. You spend more and more time away from me and the children. We used to talk about our days when you came home from work, but now all you want to do is relax, watch TV or go to sleep. I’m lonely and depressed and I don’t know what to do.
When we married, we promised each other that we would be there for each other no matter what happened, but lately you have been absent more often than not. You tell me that you have a lot of work at work and don’t have time for me or the kids but it’s not like that at all. I think it’s because your job is too stressful and you’re taking it out on us by staying away. You’re not happy with me anymore either because I haven’t lost any weight since having the baby and you say that I don’t look good in anything anymore so why bother trying?
Dear [Husband’s Name],
I don’t know what to do. I feel so alone and helpless. I feel like I’m drowning in this marriage, and you’re not helping me. You are always working, or at least it seems that way. You don’t have time for me anymore. You used to be so passionate about our relationship, but now you just seem indifferent towards me. It hurts so much when you ignore me like that – like I don’t matter as much as your work does. I love you so much, and it hurts me to see you like this!
I know that we’ve been having problems lately, but I want us to get through them together! Things have been difficult between us lately, but we can fix them if we try hard enough! I want us to be happy again – please help me make this happen by making an effort with me!
My dear husband,
I have suffered from depression for quite some time now. I am so tired and frustrated that I feel like I cannot take it anymore.
You have been working so hard lately, and it seems like you never have time for me anymore. You have been very busy with work lately and spending less time at home with me and the kids.
I know that you are going through a lot of stress at work right now and you need to focus on that. But I need you to understand that I also need your support right now.
Dear husband,
I have been feeling very depressed lately. I have been trying to hide it from you, but I think it is time that I tell you how I am feeling. You don’t know what it’s like to be in your shoes, so I am going to tell you everything.
You are trapped by your own thoughts and ideas about how things should be and what you want from life; and I am trapped by my own mind as well because even though I know that no one will ever understand me, including myself, I still try anyway.
I wish that we could escape from this world together and find another place where we can truly be ourselves without judgment or criticism from anyone else around us!
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