Have you ever been in love with someone who didn’t like you back? It’s painful, isn’t it? Here are samples of letters you write to that person who doesn’t love you and you can’t possibly force to love you.
I Can’t Force You To Love Me Letter
Dear [name],
I know this is hard to take in but I’m sorry. I hope you can understand why I feel this way and why I have to leave.
I know you don’t want me to leave, but it’s better for me to go away now and not hurt you anymore. You deserve someone who can make you happy and if that’s not me then so be it.
I’m going away because I feel like a burden on your life and it’s been eating at me for a while now. It hurts me every time you look at me with those sad eyes, and even though I might be an idiot for doing this, it’s not fair for either of us if we keep on going with this relationship when we both know how it ends up being.
You’re going to find someone else who will treat you right, someone who will make all your dreams come true, someone who won’t let you down like I did. And even though it hurts like hell right now knowing that I’m leaving, it hurts even more knowing that someday soon when you look back on this moment in time, that there won’t be any regrets left behind by either one of us.
Hi,
I’m writing this letter to tell you that I can’t force you to love me.
I know that you will never love me like I love you.
I have tried everything to make you love me but nothing seems to work.
You have hurt me so many times and I can’t take it anymore.
It hurts so much when you say those things about me in front of our friends and family members.
Your words are like daggers that stab my heart and make me bleed profusely every time you open your mouth.
You said that I am not good enough for you because my job pays less than yours and that I am not intelligent enough for you because my education is not as high as yours. You also said that my looks are not good enough for you because they aren’t perfect like the models we see on billboards or magazines everyday; therefore, no one would ever want to marry someone like me other than an ugly monster like yourself!
Dear [name],
I know that it’s not fair for me to expect you to feel the same way about me. It’s not going to happen. I can’t force you to stay with me, at least not for long enough for us to build a life together.
I know this because I’ve tried everything in my power and it still didn’t work out the way I wanted it too. You see, as much as I wanted this relationship to work out, sometimes our hearts just aren’t meant to be together.
You may think that I’m giving up on us but I’m not; I won’t give up on us until there is no hope left in this world.
Dear [name],
I can’t force you to love me, but I can still hope that one day you’ll come back. I know that it’s been a long time since we’ve talked and all the things that have happened between us. I know that you’re with someone else now, but I still hope for some way for us to reconnect. If not as lovers then as friends.
I know it’s not fair of me to keep holding on to these feelings for you. I know that they’re only hurting me more than they could ever hurt you, but I can’t seem to let go of them. Even though you’re gone, I still think about how much happier my life would be if you were still here with me right now.
I know how bad this sounds but sometimes when I’m alone at night all I want is for you to come back into my arms again so that we could have another chance at making it work between us again.
Dear X,
I love you. I always have, and I always will. You are my best friend, my soul mate and my everything. I don’t know how to make you see that. I’ve tried so many times and every time it ends in disaster for both of us.
I’ve been so scared to tell you how I feel because I’m afraid that once again you’ll tell me that you only see me as a friend.
I know how much you mean to me but I need something more than just friendship from you and it’s killing me inside knowing that we can’t be together like that.
I hate feeling this way, but it’s all I’ve ever known since we met 6 years ago.
Dear friend,
I know that you don’t love me. You have made it very clear for quite some time now. You have stopped calling me, texting me, and even skyping me anymore. I understand that this is a difficult time in your life right now and I am here to support you through this. There is nothing I want more than to be by your side during this time, but if you are not interested in me anymore, then there is nothing I can do about it.
I have done everything within my power to try to win your heart back, but it seems as though no amount of effort will ever be enough. I just wanted us to be happy together forever, but now that dream has been shattered into a million pieces along with my broken heart.
Dear,
I know that you are in love with someone else. I know that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. I also know that we have been friends for a long time and you can’t just throw away our friendship because of this.
I am not asking for your love or attention. I just want to be there for you when no one else is around. I want to be the shoulder you cry on, the person who will listen to your problems and help you solve them.
I know that this is hard for both of us but we will get through this together as friends!
Dear [name],
I know that you’re not in love with me. I can’t say that it’s a surprise, though. I’m not the kind of person that you fall in love with. I don’t have great skin or nice hair, or even an amazing body. But there’s one thing that I do have: I’m your best friend. And that’s what matters to me—not how good my body looks in a swimsuit or how much money I make at work.
I want to be able to spend time with you every day, even if we’re just watching TV together or playing video games together. That’s all I want from you: to be able to hang out with you and talk about our days together and laugh about silly things we did during the day.
If you could give me those things, then maybe we could start over again and learn how to resolve our differences without getting angry at each other all the time. Please think about this carefully before rejecting my proposal outright!
Dear [name],
I know you’re not ready to love me yet. And that’s okay.
It took me a long time to figure out how much I was willing to take, and once I did, it felt like a relief. But I still felt like something was missing. And then one day, it hit me: it’s not just about how much you love me—it’s about how much you want to be with me. And that feels good enough for now.
So don’t feel bad if you’re not ready to love me yet—I get it! The most important thing is that we are both ready for something different than what we’ve been used to for so long. And if we can work together on this, then there’s no way we can’t find a way to be happy together in the future.
But if you do have feelings for someone else… Well, I’m glad that person exists because they are providing you with the kind of companionship and support that will help us both get through all of this. Because let’s face it, sometimes things aren’t always easy!
Dear [NAME],
I know how hard it is for you to love me. I can’t force you to, and I don’t want to. But if you could just try? That would be great. It would mean the world to me.
If you could try, I promise that I’ll do everything in my power to make sure we’re happy together for the rest of our lives. And if we aren’t—if things don’t work out between us—I want you to know that I’ll walk away from this relationship with no regrets.
And if you still don’t feel like loving me back? Well…it’s okay! We all have our limits, and mine are very small potatoes compared to other people’s (like yours). So if this letter doesn’t make any sense or if it doesn’t get through your thick skull, then that’s just fine with me!
I hope this letter makes sense and makes its way into your inbox soon!
Dear [name],
I know this may sound crazy, but I’m writing to tell you that I don’t want to force you to love me. I know we have been dating for some time now and have had a lot of fun together, but I think maybe it’s not working out between us. Maybe it’s because we aren’t really compatible or maybe it’s just because we are too different.
I don’t mean to hurt your feelings or anything like that, but if you want to end things with me, then that’s fine by me. If you don’t want to date anymore, then that’s okay too; I just want you to know how I feel about things so that we can all be on the same page moving forward.
With love,
[Your name]
Hello [name],
It’s been a while since we last talked. I hope you are doing well. I’m writing this letter because I want to let you know that as much as I want you to love me, it’s not something that can be forced.
I’ve been thinking about our relationship and how it has changed for the better since we started dating. Your love has made me feel so good about myself and the way I look, which is why I took the time to get professional pictures taken in order to show off my best features to you. You have always been supportive of my goals and aspirations and have encouraged me to live my life as best as I can despite my disability.
I know that things can change between two people, but if you are willing to keep being open-minded when it comes to your feelings towards me, then there’s no reason why we shouldn’t continue dating or even marry someday in the future!
Dear,
I am writing this letter to you because I feel something is missing from our relationship. I know that this may come as a surprise to you but I just can’t pretend anymore. As much as I want to be with you, I can’t force myself to love you.
I know that this may sound harsh but it’s the truth. You deserve someone who will love you wholeheartedly and not just because they want to please their parents or society.
I hope that one day, maybe in the future, we will be able to be friends again. But for now, it would be best if we stayed away from each other so that we can both move on with our lives without any regrets or guilt attached to it.
Goodbye!
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