These letters are sample letters to the husband who decided he had no other option but to leave his wife, his family, his house, and the way of life they’d enjoyed together,
Letter To My Husband Who Abandoned Me
Dear [husband],
I don’t know why you left me for another woman, but I’m glad that you did. It was a long time coming and now we can both move on. You may not realize it yet, but I am already in love with another man who treats me better than you ever did. He is kind and caring, and he makes me laugh every day. We are going to get married soon, and we will live happily ever after together.
Thank you for all of your support over the years. You helped me through some really tough times, but now it’s time for me to start anew without you in my life. I hope that one day you come around and realize what an idiot you were for leaving me behind all those years ago!
Dear Husband,
I know we haven’t been together for a long time. But when I think of you, I still feel like there’s something there between us. Something that’s real and true. And maybe it’s because of this feeling that I’ve always wanted to tell you how much I love you.
I don’t know what happened between us, but I hope we can talk about it. Maybe it’s too late for us now, but maybe it’s not too late for our children.
Dear [husband’s name],
I’m writing this letter to you because I need to say something that I’ve been holding in for a very long time. And I hope that you will be able to read it, even though you’re not here.
I want you to know that when we first met, I thought we were going to be together forever. We had such fun together! We went on adventures and did silly things like eat ice cream out of each other’s mouths on the beach at midnight. You made me feel loved and secure, and when we moved in together, it felt like we really had something special. We were living our dreams together.
But then things changed, and suddenly it seemed like everything was falling apart. You were distant and cold; you wouldn’t talk about what was bothering you or how I could help fix things between us. It felt like we were drifting apart without ever actually talking about what was wrong or how we might fix it. So eventually after months of feeling alone, I decided to leave you so that I could find happiness again with someone else who would treat me well and make me feel loved.
Dear husband,
I just wanted to let you know that I’m doing okay. I know that this is a hard time for both of us, but I’m trying to focus on the good in our relationship and how much you mean to me. You were always so good at making me laugh, and I miss it. We used to have so much fun together.
I know things have been difficult lately, but I want you to know that I’m here if you need someone even if it’s just someone to talk about your day with. And even though we’re separated right now, I still love you and care about what happens to you.
I hope we can work through this soon.
Dear [husband’s name],
I hope this letter finds you well. I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately—especially since I just found out that you remarried. That must be so exciting for you! I’m happy for you.
I know that time has passed since we were together, but I wanted to write and let you know how important it is for me that we stay connected. I’m sorry if things got hard between us, and I hope we can talk about it someday soon.
In the meantime, please know that I am always thinking of you, and wishing the best for your future happiness.
Dear [husband name],
I’m writing this letter because I miss you. I know that you left me, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t still love you. I hope that you’re doing well.
I’m sure it’s hard for you to be away from your family and friends, but please remember that we are your family and friends too! You can always come home if things get rough or if there is an emergency.
I hope that you’ve been able to find a job and make new friends while you’re gone. If not, please let me know so we can help you out.
We miss you very much.
Dear [husband’s name],
I want to start by saying that I am so sorry for the way things turned out. I understand that you are trying to do the best thing for you, but it still hurts like hell. I know you don’t want to hear it, but I still love you and miss you every day.
You were my first love and my only love, and even though we haven’t spoken in months, I know in my heart that this is not how our story ends. I know someday we’ll be together again, but for now all I can do is hope and pray that one day soon we’ll be able to talk without all the anger and resentment between us.
Dear [husband’s name],
It’s been six years since you left. I’ve been trying to get over you, but it seems like every day I wake up and think “maybe today is the day he’ll come back.” Then I go through the motions of the day, and at night when I’m lying in bed, all alone, I feel like a failure.
I feel like a failure because I didn’t keep our relationship together—even though we were having issues, even though we obviously weren’t happy together anymore, even though you made it clear that you didn’t want to be with me anymore. And then you just left without saying goodbye? It wasn’t fair.
Maybe it’s because we have children together (who don’t know yet that their parents aren’t together anymore). Maybe it’s because we had so many good memories together: vacations; holidays; birthdays; anniversaries… maybe they’re keeping us stuck in this limbo where neither of us can move forward until we’ve figured out how to deal with these memories.
Dear [husband],
I miss you. I miss the way we used to laugh and talk about everything, from how much money we were making to what happened on our favorite TV shows.
I know that you’re currently in a place where you don’t want to be, and I know that you don’t want any part of it. But I want you to know that I’m here for you, no matter what happens and that whatever happens between us, it won’t change my love for you.
I know that sometimes it’s hard to remember why people stick around when things get tough, but I hope that at least part of the time you can remember how much I care about your well-being and happiness. And when those times come—when all seems lost, please remember that there is always someone here who will listen if you need them, who will help if they can manage it, and who will always love you no matter what happens.
Dear [husband’s name],
I hope you’re doing well. I just wanted to check in and see how you’re doing. I hope everything is going well for you, and that you’re still happy with your decision to leave.
I know it must have been hard, but I want to thank you for being brave enough to make that decision. It’s not easy to leave behind your family and friends, especially when they are the only people who know where you are. But I want to thank you for being brave enough to do what was best for yourself, even when it was scary and hard.
I hope that wherever life takes you next, you find happiness. And if there is ever anything I can do for you ,anything at all, please let me know.
Dear [husband’s name],
You were my world. You were the most important thing in my life, and you still are. I don’t know how to move on from this.
You left me all alone, with no explanation and no apology. You just disappeared into thin air, like a puff of smoke, like an apparition… like something that never existed in the first place.
I don’t understand how you can leave me behind like this when all I ever wanted was for us to be together forever. We had so many plans for our future together: we were going to have kids and grow old together and travel the world together. You were supposed to be the one who was there for me always, through thick and thin—not abandon me when things got tough.
I feel abandoned by you every day, every minute of every hour of every day since you left me. But even worse than that is feeling abandoned by myself, by my own self-worth, by my dreams for myself, by my future, all because of you leaving me behind without even saying goodbye? How could you do this to me? How could you do this to us?
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Dear [husband’s name],
I am writing to you now because I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately. It’s been three months since we last spoke, and I can’t help but wonder if there is something wrong with me. You left me without any explanation, and I’m still trying to figure out why.
I know that we had some issues in our marriage and sure, maybe we weren’t perfect. But the truth is that I was always devoted to you, and I thought we would work through whatever problems we were having together. But instead of being open with me, or talking things over with me like adults, you simply left. And then when I reached out to talk to you about it all again a few weeks later, you didn’t respond at all.
And that’s where I’m at right now: confused, hurt… angry. And maybe even a little bit scared? Because what if this is it? What if this is all there is for us? What if this time apart is just too much for us to overcome? It’s hard not knowing what will happen next or if anything will change between us again or ever again.
Dear [husband name],
I know you’ve been busy with work lately, but I wanted to let you know that I miss you. You’re always working so hard, and it seems like you never have time for me anymore. We used to spend so much time together when we were dating, what happened?
I hope that you can find some time for us soon. I love you.
Dear [husband’s name],
I hope this letter finds you well. I’m writing to you because I haven’t heard from you in a while, and I was hoping that we could talk about how we can move forward as a family.
I know that we’ve had some disagreements in the past, but I want to make sure that we’re doing everything we can to keep our children safe and happy. I’m sorry for any hurt feelings or misunderstandings that might have come up between us; it’s just been so hard since [name] left for college, and now [name] is going too! It feels like our family is falling apart.
I’m sorry if this makes me sound like a bad parent, I try very hard to be a good one, but sometimes it’s hard when our kids are growing up so fast, and they get so busy with school and friends and activities. The truth is, I’m scared of losing them too soon; I’m scared of losing my husband too soon too, but mostly because of what it will do to our kids if he leaves us again (like last time).
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