Do you have a cheating spouse? If you’re reading this letter, I’m sure you have a sneaking suspicion that your significant other is cheating on you. This letter is an open letter for cheaters who have been caught or are about to be caught.
Open Letter For Cheaters
Dear cheaters,
We’re not angry with you. We’re disappointed. We’re disappointed that you’ve chosen to betray someone who trusted you implicitly, who thought the world of you and believed in your honor and integrity.
I know it can be hard to admit that you’ve made a mistake. I know that when your infidelity is discovered, you feel ashamed and embarrassed, even though it’s not your fault that you cheated or that your affair was discovered. You were likely led there by factors outside of your control by loneliness, by lust, by a deep need for human contact or affection. It’s not easy to open up about what happened, especially when so much shame is attached to the subject of infidelity.
You may think we’ll never understand how you could cheat on someone we love so dearly. But here’s the thing. We do understand why you did it. Because if we didn’t, the betrayal would be even more devastating than it already is.
We want to forgive you and welcome you back into our lives because we still love you, and we still believe in your honor and integrity, even if your actions have proven otherwise in this moment of weakness. This isn’t about condoning or excusing what happened, it’s about accepting.
Dear Cheating Person,
I never thought I’d write this, but I’m writing this for someone who’s cheating. You’re cheating. You’re lying to someone you supposedly love. That’s your thing. It’s not mine.
What you’re doing is wrong and I’m going to tell you why.
You’re setting a bad example for your kids. Cheating is something that kids learn from their parents. So you might be setting a bad example for your kids too if they don’t know what cheating is, but they’ll know it when they see it and they will see it because you’re making a fool of yourself in front of them by being dishonest to their mother/father, as well as to other people including your new best friends. They will think it’s OK to cheat and they will end up being like you one day, and then they’ll have kids who will grow up to be liars like them too.
Dear cheater,
So you got yourself into this mess and now you’re looking for a way out. You want to know how to get your ex back.
Well, first of all, stop cheating on them. I know that’s the easy part. But there’s more to it than that. You have to make them fall in love with you again or at least like you enough so they’ll want to give you a second shot.
I know it’s hard to change your ways when you’ve been with someone for so long and they’ve seen all your faults, but if you’re going to try any of these suggestions, then do them all. And don’t half-ass it either. Each of these actions will be just as important as the last.
Dear Cheater,
I want you to know I am not going to judge you. I am not going to sit here and say things like “I can’t believe you did this” or “how could you do this.” I am not going to tell you that what you did is evil. I am not even going to tell you that what you did is wrong.
Your marriage, your relationship, your love – they are as real as they ever were. You loved her every bit as much as she loved you. You had the same laughs, the same inside jokes, the same love for each other that married couples share. No one can take that away from either of you.
You just cheated on her. That’s all.
Dear Cheaters,
I’m writing to you because I have a few words for you. Words that I hope will help you understand just how much pain you have caused to the people around you.
You say that you did not mean to hurt anyone and that cheating is just an act of passion. But in reality, it is not just a simple infidelity, it is an act of betrayal which leaves behind deep scars that are difficult to heal. Cheating is not about the other person but about the relationship itself; it means that there was something wrong in your relationship which could not be resolved through talk or counseling.
Cheating isn’t just about sex, it’s also about lies, deception and dishonesty. It signifies a lack of trust on your part and shows that you didn’t value your partner enough to be faithful to them. It means that you were so desperate for attention from someone else that you were willing to go behind your partner’s back in order to get it. If this was something which was so important for you then why weren’t you honest with yourself and with your partner?
Dear Cheaters,
We have all been there. You are in a relationship and things just aren’t going the way you want them to. You feel like you are getting lost in your partner’s shadow and you want to be special again. Perhaps he or she is not paying enough attention to you or maybe he or she is giving too much attention to someone else. Whatever the reason may be, it doesn’t matter now because we have already moved on from that part of our lives.
We’ve grown up and realized that relationships are not always perfect. We have learned that sometimes we need to compromise and sacrifice for the sake of our loved ones. We’ve learned how important it is to forgive and forget because if not then we will never be able to move forward with our lives. We’ve learned that love is not just about lust but also about trust, commitment and respect for one another as well as ourselves.
But most importantly, we’ve learned that even though we may have made mistakes in the past or will make mistakes in the future, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t hope for us yet because as long as we try our best then there will always be hope for us no matter what happens next in life.
Dear Cheater,
I’m writing this letter because I care about you. I want you to heal and feel ready to be with someone who will treat you well.
I know it can be hard to admit that your relationship wasn’t as good as it seemed, or that you were hurting your partner in ways they didn’t deserve. But now, with distance, you can see things more clearly. You can take a step back and really assess what happened between the two of you. Remembering those times will help you realize how much better things would have been if only one thing had been different, if only YOU had been different.
If only YOU had been honest, kinder, more respectful of your partner’s feelings and needs,if only YOU would have treated them like a human being instead of like an object or a tool for your own selfish ends, you wouldn’t be here today having to read this letter. You’d still be happy together, maybe even married with kids by now! And it’s not too late for that future to happen,it’s just going to take some work on YOUR part before it does happen again.
So please: take some time for yourself right now and do some soul searching about all these.
Dear Cheaters,
I am writing you this letter because I want to know why. I don’t understand why you do what you do.
I don’t understand why you think it’s okay to hurt someone else when they have given so much of themselves to you.
I don’t understand how you can look at yourself in the mirror and not feel any remorse for what you’ve done.
And I don’t understand how someone can be so selfish and so cruel to their partner, who has been nothing but loving and supportive with them throughout their entire relationship together.
We all make mistakes, but the mistake we made with each other was not intentional, at least not on my part. But intentionally hurting someone else is no mistake; it’s deliberate action taken with intent to cause harm or pain through manipulation or deceitful behavior. That is wrong, and there is no excuse for it!
Check: Letter To Husband Who Stopped Loving Me
Cheaters,
You are not alone. We know you’ve probably been told that you are, but we want you to know that you’re not. In fact, there are millions of other people who have cheated on their partners and regretted it, and there are millions more who have been cheated on and have had a hard time forgiving their partner for it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting what your partner has. It’s human nature to want what others have or feel like we deserve better than what we have. Sometimes we just need new ideas, or someone else’s perspective on things in order to make decisions about our own lives. That’s why dating multiple people can be so helpful, it gives us the opportunity to see what else is out there! We can try new things without having to worry about hurting anyone because we aren’t in a relationship with anyone at all!
But when we start cheating on someone who cares about us? That’s when things get messy. And even though it may seem like it at the time, cheating isn’t going to make your life any better, it’ll just make everyone around you miserable too! So don’t do it!
Dear Cheaters,
I know you’re out there. I see you online, staring at your computer screen with a look of guilt on your face, wondering if you should tell me or not. Maybe it’s because we have a history together, or maybe it’s because you know that I’m not stupid and I’ll figure it out eventually. Maybe it’s just because you want someone to talk to, who will understand what you’re going through.
Whatever the case may be, I’m here for you. I’m going to give you some advice that will hopefully help you get through this difficult time in your life and make things easier for both of us.
The first thing I want to say is that don’t beat yourself up over what happened! You aren’t alone in this situation and neither am I. There are tons of people who have cheated before and many more who will in the future. This isn’t something that happens because we’re bad people or anything like that; it just happens sometimes! People make mistakes and sometimes our feelings get in the way of rational thinking.
If anyone has ever told you otherwise then they’re lying! They don’t care about what happened between the two of you.
Dear Cheater,
I’m writing to you. I know you’re out there because I’ve been there. I cheated on my husband and I regret it every day.
I don’t think I ever realized how much until he told me he wanted a divorce. That’s when it hit me like a ton of bricks the pain and guilt and shame that comes with having an affair. It wasn’t just my marriage that was destroyed but our entire family has suffered because of my actions.
It’s been over a year since my husband found out about my infidelity, but we’re still working through our issues as a couple, as parents, and as individuals. This isn’t easy and it doesn’t happen overnight , if anything, it takes months or even years (in some cases). You see, when you cheat on someone, everything about your relationship changes trust, communication, intimacy, everything.
But here’s the thing: cheating isn’t worth it! No matter how happy things may seem at first (or how unhappy they seem in your current relationship), cheating will only cause more pain than happiness in the long run!
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