If you’ve been separated from your spouse, this letter is for you. If you’re struggling with leaving your husband a note or letter, you’ll find some useful tips below for how to write a letter to my husband during separation.
Letter To My Husband During Separation
Dear Husband,
I know this is hard for you. You’re not used to being apart from me. I know that you feel lonely and that it’s hard for you to be away from me. But being away from each other is good for both of us. It will make us stronger in the long run.
This separation has been difficult for both of us because we have always been so close. We have never been apart for more than a few hours at a time, so this is an entirely new experience for us both. I think we are both still adjusting to living without each other’s constant presence in our lives, but I think we are doing okay so far. The hardest part is not having someone there to help me when I need it and vice versa.
I hope you understand why we decided to do this separation now instead of later on down the road when we were already married with children or whatever else might prevent us from working through our issues right now while they’re still fresh in our memories and emotions so that we can get through them before they become bigger problems down the road when they’ve been stewing inside of us for years.
Dear Husband,
I’m not sure if you will read this or not, but I need to write it. We’ve been married for almost 11 years, and have been separated for more than a year. I’m not sure what the future holds for us and our family. But I know that I still love you.
The past year has been really hard on me. Not only because we’ve been apart, but because of everything that happened during that time period. Your affair, your attempt to reconcile with her, and then finally filing for divorce from me. It’s been a painful journey for me to say the least.
I don’t know how many times I’ve cried over all of this, but it’s too many times to count. Each time I cry it’s like ripping off another piece of my heart, leaving an empty hole behind where there used to be something beautiful – our love for each other, our dreams for our future together as husband and wife and parents to our children.
I’ve prayed so hard these past few months asking God why this is happening to us? What did we do wrong? Why are we being punished like this? Why can’t things go back to the way they were before everything changed?
Dear Husband,
I am writing this letter to you because I am scared. I am scared that you are going to leave me and take my children from me. I know that you love them more than anything in this world, but I also know that if it comes down to it, you will choose yourself over them every time.
I know that you are angry at me for leaving, but please understand that it was not an easy decision for me to make. The truth is, We have been unhappy for a very long time and we have tried everything we could think of to make things better. We went to counseling, we saw a marriage counselor separately and together, but nothing worked. You still had no interest in talking about our problems or working on them together, instead you just wanted me to shut up and be happy with what we had. You told me that the grass isn’t greener on the other side, that there is no such thing as happily ever after and that nobody’s perfect so why should we even try?
The problem is, We weren’t happy together anymore, not even close! We both deserve better than what we have now or had then or whatever it is.
Dear Husband,
I know that it’s hard to be away from each other right now. I know that you’re going through a difficult time and it’s hard for you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I know that you feel like this is never going to get better and that we’ll never get back to our old selves. But I also want you to know that I’m always here for you. If there’s anything you need or anything I can do to help, please don’t hesitate to ask me.
I know it might be hard for us to see eye-to-eye right now and that we have different opinions about some things but all I ask from you is that you try to respect my decisions as much as I respect yours. Separation isn’t easy for either one of us but hopefully we’ll both come out stronger on the other side of this ordeal.
Dear [husband’s name],
I’m writing this letter in hopes that it will help you to understand some of the things that have been going through my mind. This is not an attempt to make you feel guilty, or to blame you for anything. It’s just my attempt to express some things that I’ve been feeling during this time of separation.
First off, I want to say that I am so grateful for all of the love and support you have given me over the years. You have always been there for me when I needed someone most, and it’s because of your love that we have a beautiful daughter together.
That being said, I know it’s hard for us both right now. It’s hard for me because I miss my husband and his presence in my life and because of this separation, it feels like we’re living very separate lives right now. And it’s hard for you because… well, I know how much you love me and our daughter! The thought of losing her must be absolutely devastating for you.
I hope we can get through this and come back together.
Dear (name),
I’m sorry that I can’t be there with you right now. I know that this is hard for both of us, but it’s a necessary step in our journey to build a safe and happy life together.
I hope you’re doing okay, I know it must be hard to be away from me, especially when we’ve only had each other for so long. But I’m confident that we’ll get through this together, and that the end result will be worth it. Just remember that I love you very much and am thinking about you every day!
Dear [husband name],
I don’t know if you’ll ever read this letter, but I wanted to write it anyway. Maybe it will be cathartic for me and help me work through the pain of our separation.
I know that you have your own reasons for leaving, and I understand them. You’re not a bad person,you’re just not in love with me anymore. I wish things could be different, but I don’t think we can make them better again.
I’m going to miss you so much. I want you to know that no matter what happens between us, you will always be my best friend, the man who showed me what real love was like, and how much joy it can bring into someone’s life. I will never forget all of the good times we’ve had together, watching movies on lazy Sunday afternoons, spending our first Christmas together, going on vacations, learning new things together. It’s been an amazing journey! And even though things aren’t working out right now, our friendship will always be there for us both even when we’re apart from each other physically because you’ll always be in my heart.
Dear Husband,
I hope this letter finds you well. I know that we’ve been separated for a while now, but I wanted to take a moment to reach out and let you know how much I care about you and our family.
There are so many things that have been going on in my life recently, and I’m not sure where to start. But one thing is for sure, nothing could ever change how much I love you, how much I appreciate your support of me, and how thankful I am for all the ways you make me laugh every day.
I hope that wherever you are, whatever it is that’s keeping us apart (and believe me, I don’t want to think about it), that you’re feeling good enough about yourself to know that no matter what happens next or where we end up living, there will always be a place for you here in our home. And if there isn’t, well then we’ll build one together!
Dear [husband’s name],
I know you’re probably really busy and stressed out, so I wanted to write you a quick note to let you know that I’m thinking about you.
It’s hard being separated from our family, especially for the kids and me. We miss you so much! But we have been doing our best to stay strong and keep moving forward.
I hope things are going well with your new job and that you are making time for yourself to relax. You deserve a break! And I hope that this will be a temporary situation that we can all be together again soon.
Love always, your wife.
Dear [name],
I just wanted to check in with you and see how things are going. I know it’s been a tough time for both of us, and I’m so sorry that our separation has been so hard on you. I want you to know that I am thinking about you, and I hope everything is going well for you.
We’ll be together again soon. In the meantime, please remember: things will get better.
Love always,
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Dear [husband’s name],
I’m writing this letter because I’m trying to figure out why this is happening, why we’re separated and why, despite everything we’ve been through together and all the times we’ve said I love you in our lives, we can’t seem to find a way back to each other. (Or at least that’s what it feels like.) And if there is no way back for us, then maybe it’s time for me to let go of you and move on with my life. Maybe that’s what’s best for both of us right now.
But even though we may be separating or divorcing or whatever happens next between us (and honestly? who knows?), there are still things about you that make me feel whole. There are still things about you that make me feel strong and confident in who I am as a woman and as a person and those things will never change for me no matter what happens between us.
Dear Husband,
I am writing to you about our separation. I want to apologize for my actions and how I’ve hurt you. I know that this must be very difficult for you, but I hope that you understand that it’s just as hard for me.
I know that we have a lot of work to do if we want to get past this and move forward with our lives together again. Our marriage is worth saving, and I hope that we can find a way to make it work.
I love you with all of my heart and soul, and nothing will ever change that. Please know that even though our current situation is not ideal, it’s only temporary. You are still the most important person in my life, always have been and always will be and your happiness matters more than anything else in this world.
Dear Husband,
I just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you today. Even though we’re apart, we’re still in each other’s hearts. I hope you’re enjoying time with your family and friends, and getting to do all of the things you love. I wish I could be there with you!
I have been thinking about the future a lot lately, about what it will be like for us when we are together again. When that happens, I want us both to be better people than we were before our separation began. So even though it may be hard to imagine right now, I want you to know that my love for you has grown even stronger during this time apart from each other.
Please take care of yourself and stay safe until our reunion!
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