What would you do if the man you were madly in love with broke up with you? Would you write him a letter reminding him of the good times you had? Here are samples of letters you can write to a man you used to love.
Letter To The Man I Used To Love
Dear [man I used to love],
I’ve been meaning to write this letter for a while. I think it’s time, though, and I need to get it out.
I’ve been thinking back on the time we had together, and it makes me smile. I could go on about how much I loved being with you, but what matters more is that I value the way you made me feel about myself. You told me that I was beautiful and smart and fun, and those things were true, you just helped me see them for myself.
I’m writing because the way we ended is still a little hard for me to understand. We were so close in some ways, but then there were so many things we never talked about, so many things that were hard or uncomfortable or simply too weird to ask about or even think about. If there’s ever a chance for us to talk again (and maybe even be friends), let me know. If not… well… Thank you for everything.
Dear [name],
I’m writing to let you know that I’ve moved on. I’m no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
It’s not because there was anything wrong with the way we were together—we had a lot of fun together, and I think we really could have been happy together. But now that the relationship is over, it’s clear to me that we just weren’t right for each other. And even though I don’t want this letter to come across as harsh or mean-spirited, I feel like it’s important to be honest about how things ended between us.
We’re two different people who wanted different things from life and from each other. And while there may have been plenty of good times during our time together, ultimately we weren’t compatible enough for either one of us to make a real commitment.
Hi, [name]!
I hope this letter finds you well. I’m writing to thank you for everything in the past and wish you all the best in the future.
I know that things have been difficult between us and that it’s been hard to get past our differences, but I want you to know that if there’s anything at all that I can do for you, please let me know. Even if it’s just a cup of tea and some cookies, I’ll be happy to help out.
You’ve taught me so much about myself over the years how strong I am when times are tough, how much love I have for others, and how much faith I can have in my own abilities. You were there for me when no one else was, even when it seemed like the whole world was against us together.
It’s been an honor being with someone as kind hearted as yourself for as long as we were together.
Dear [name],
I hope this letter finds you well. I know it’s been a long time since we last spoke, and I’m sorry for that. I’ve thought about you often over the years, and I hope that wherever you are in your life, you’re doing well.
I’m writing this letter to tell you how much your friendship meant to me back in college. You were one of the first people who made me feel like I could be myself around other people—even though my feelings for you were never returned (and probably never will be). It was hard for me to open up and trust anyone at that point in my life, but you helped me feel secure enough in myself that I could relax around others and enjoy their company. You also helped me discover some of my passions: writing, music, and art.
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Dear [name],
I’m writing this letter because I think it’s time for me to tell you the truth. For the last few months, I’ve been pretending that everything is okay between us, and it isn’t. I know that you’re reading this, so let me just come out and say it: I don’t love you anymore.
I’ve been trying to figure out when my feelings changed, but it wasn’t a sudden thing—it was more like a slow leak. There were so many signs along the way that I should have picked up on sooner than I did. But then again, maybe if we had talked about them earlier, this wouldn’t have happened at all.
Maybe you’ll never read this letter; maybe you’ll burn it before you get to the end. But either way, I just want to tell you that even though things didn’t work out between us in the long run, there will always be a place in my heart for you.
Dear [name],
I’m writing to you because I want to say thank you. Thank you for everything that we shared together. We had an amazing time together, and I’ll never forget it.
I know that the last few years have been hard for both of us. I don’t know if we would’ve gotten through them without each other, but we did. And now here we are—we’re both so much stronger than when we started out.
I’m proud of you for all the things you’ve accomplished and all the ways you have grown over the past few years. You’ve done so much with your life, and I know you’re going to do even more amazing things in the future!
I hope that wherever life takes us, we can be there for each other as friends—because that’s what friends do: they support each other through good times and bad times, no matter what happens next in life (even if it means not being romantically involved anymore).
Dear [name],
I’m writing to you because I think it’s time that we talk. But not about anything serious. We’ve been friends for a very long time, and I know that you’re a good person. You’re smart, funny—you’re just great. And I think we can be friends for a long time to come.
But maybe we should stop pretending that we can ever be more than that. It was fun for a while, but now it’s just sad. It’s sad because I know how much you care about me, but also because it’s clear to me that I don’t feel the same way about you as you do about me.
I want what is best for both of us, so I hope this letter will help us both move forward in our lives without all this pressure on top of us anymore!
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Dear ex,
I hope you’re doing well and happy with your life. I still remember the good times we had together. You were my first love, and I thought we would last forever. But it didn’t happen that way. You left me, and I was left alone with my pain and sorrow.
I know you don’t want to hear from me anymore, but I just wanted to tell you that I have moved on from our relationship and am doing well now. I have found a new love in my life, who treats me with so much respect and care. He understands me, listens to me and makes me feel special every day. He has taught me how to trust again after what happened between us.
I hope you find someone who will love you like he does me someday because you deserve all the happiness in the world!
Dear John,
I hope this letter finds you well. I’m writing to you to let you know that I’m sorry for being such a terrible person. I’m sorry that I ruined our friendship by making you feel like there was something wrong with you and so you would try to change yourself to make me happy. The truth is, the only thing that ever made me happy was being around you, so please don’t ever change who you are because of me or anyone else.
I’m sorry that I pushed people away when they tried to get close to me. It’s not because they weren’t good enough for me; it’s because I didn’t think anyone could love me as much as I loved them and then they would leave me like everyone else did in my life.
I’m sorry that I took advantage of your kindness and generosity.
Dear [name],
It has been a year since we broke up. A lot has happened since then. I am glad that at least you got to be happy before things ended. I was not able to do that, so I hope this letter finds you well and happy with someone else.
You were always there for me whenever I needed someone to talk to or just to be around. You were there when my parents died, when my best friend left me, when my boyfriend cheated on me and when my other friends were being assholes. You were there even when I did not ask for it or wanted it, but I always appreciated your presence and honesty with me, because it was what kept me sane all those times.
Check: I Can’t Force You To Love Me Letter
Dear man I used to love,
I know you don’t want to hear from me. I know that you don’t want me in your life anymore. But I feel like this is something that needs to be done.
The last two months have been really tough for me. But I’m not writing this letter because of my own problems, but because of yours. You see, you’re not happy anymore and it’s breaking my heart. You look sad all the time and it breaks my heart even more. What happened? Did something happen to you? Did someone hurt you? Did someone take something away from you? Did someone make you forget who you were?
The man I used to love would never let anyone get close enough to hurt him like this. He had so much confidence and self esteem that he thought nobody could ever hurt him or change him for the worse. He was strong and independent; he didn’t need anyone else’s help or support because he knew he could do everything on his own if need be (that’s what made him so attractive).
Dear,
I’m sorry for the way I treated you. I know that there’s no turning back, but still, I want you to know how much I regret it.
Even if we were together for only a short time, it was wonderful. You made me feel special and loved. You made me feel like I was worth something. And that’s something that no one has ever done before.
I wish we could have stayed together longer, but it wasn’t meant to be. At least we had each other for a little while. That’s something that money can’t buy!
Dear ___________,
I’m sorry for how I treated you. I know that it must seem like I don’t care about you anymore but it’s not true. The fact is that I do care about you but I don’t know how to show it anymore because we’ve been broken up for so long.
I wish things could be different between us but they’re not. We’re just not meant to be together anymore and there’s nothing we can do about it. It’s been over a year since we broke up and you’ve moved on with your life and so have I, so please stop trying to get me back because it hurts too much knowing that you still want me after everything that happened between us. The truth is that there’s nothing left of us anymore and no matter how much time passes between now and when we were together, nothing will change what has happened between us before or during our relationship.
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